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A SOUL THAT NEEDS A SURGERY⭐

   It kills me to think that if a woman as stunning and successful as Beyoncé could succumb in any way to the insecurity foisted on females by our looks-oriented culture, then what hope do i have..lol– what hope does any woman in our society – have?. 

He’s topped numerous ‘Sexiest Men’ lists and bagged the beautiful Kristen Stewart as a girlfriend - yet Robert Pattison still has body confidence issues.It wouldn’t be an exaggeration to say there’s a good billion girls and women who would kill to be Beyoncé Knowles—to have her face and hair and body, not to mention her fame and power or a good billion boys and men who would kill to be Robert Pattison- to have his body,face not to mention his fame and money.

I have a very sweet namesake,though stubborn and I want him to feel good about the way he looks – and of course I do think he’s handsome, both inside and out. But what if he didn’t? What if he wasn’t happy with his face, nose or his ears or his hands? In many ways, I couldn’t blame him, despite the litany of encouraging messages he’s received from those of us who love him. He wouldn’t be alone. There were 14.6 million cosmetic plastic surgery procedures performed last years . 

Of note, these numbers were up, significantly. And that’s during a recession! Pretty hurts. We’re constantly sending girls/boys and women/men the message that a) their looks matter; b) they’re far from perfect; c) they should do something about it post haste; and d) that will change everything!
There’s only one problem, as beyonces song 'pretty hurts' points out:

We try to fix something but you can’t fix what you can’t see
It’s the soul that needs the surgery

Yes! You see, the problem is on the inside. The problem, paradoxically, is the very insecurity our culture has created in the first place. It’s not our fault. For God’s sake, if the most beautiful woman in the world can relate (ironically looking utterly flawless in the video as though she wakes up that way every day) then the rest of us have to understand we just can’t win this damn war.
But we should consider:  With what are we left (besides physical pain, scars, psychological side effects, and massive medical bills) after numerous unnecessary cosmetic surgeries and other unintelligent medicine?

Plastic smiles and denial can only take you so far
Then you break when the fake facade leaves you in the dark
You are left with shattered mirrors and the shards of a beautiful past

Heartbreaking phrase. Whose father wants his daughter to go through that? And when the time comes, do I want her to wind up with a man who loves her only for a nose or breasts she bought from a plastic surgeon? So here’s the $64 million question that I think sold Beyoncé on this song; the great equalizer; the existential question we all need to ask ourselves regardless of whether we’re a celebrity or a “nobody” in our own mind or mirror:

When you’re alone all by yourself 
And you’re lying in your bed 
Reflection stares right into you 
Are you happy with yourself?
So sorry to ask you what is your take about this topic? Don't tell me you don't have one?
Aren't you human? Don't you think? Dont you see reasons?



                                                           VIVIAN KOSY NGIGE.

                                                       KOSY OBUMNEKE OKEKE 


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