TODAY I want to clear some perceived perceptions of some people that go about making a yab of other peoples life ordeal. It's not fair nor kind. Some of them are losing it, their MINDS, EMOTIONS, DRIVE TO LIFE AND MUCH MORE.
They met themselves, liked each other so much and probably on the first date, the guy said, "you will be my wife" and the girl/woman chuckled and went on to different topic to move away from that discussion and more so she has been told such line from a guy or two so she's not interested in that, in her mind she wants to enjoy the moment and move on.
After a week of constant calls, messages and prove of love, she decided to give a slight turn to this guy unknowingly to her she fell in.
She still had RESERVATIONS!!
But the guy was so happy and needed her in his life. This lady saw the Genuine Love & Affection and started modelling the guy to her taste and to drop some bushy behaviours, which she noticed that the guy was eager to learn and despite the disparities in some areas, the guy cared less about all. SHE was all that matters.
Now, the lady despite her family background took the guy home, and he was accepted and the kids around loved him after much observations.
Issues;
They are from different ethnicity, they are not related, they are from different ideas, norms and values and above all, different individuals trying to achieve a common goal, "MARRIAGE".
He was told a lot he would love to abide just to have their daughter, he didn't think twice, he accepted; even modified his faith just to feel accepted.
Now, he proved himself Worthy and he was loved heavily by HER, she would do anything for Him.
About time to take the list,a lot happened in his family, which he stood up and rose above all and they fell in to support him.
They had issues, HIM & HER, it lead to a lot of her family members taking him as an abuser and not good for their Daughter. All he did was just to explain himself but to no avail, but he went to her to explain more, SHE was against HIM for a while but she couldn't give up but she gave the family window to talk about HIM & HER, but she has seen the reason he talked back she felt bad but the vacuum is created.
Despite HE has gotten HER engaged, the family members sees it as nothing now.
But there's something about this Guy, he has been modified so much so that you will be hurting him with your words, the demons will be calm because SHE chased the BEAST in him away.
She modified HIM so much that she said one day, "I can't let another woman enjoy you that I built."
Now:
Everyone in the family has turned to MARRIAGE THERAPIST, and they DREAM DREAMS.
But each day HE gets a call from HER he's so worried to hear what else again someone else will say to HER, he knows they are breaking HER for HIM,
She looks like thick SKIN but the family knows she's fragile.
She doesn't wear ENGAGEMENT RING no more and he's a bit scared. Damn real scared!
You see a man on his wedding day crying so much about not imagining him being here, even her showing her face on the wedding venue, he's not sure about it, but it was a miracle she's here that's why he's putting his ring in her finger crying. The war might have been 3,4, maybe 6 years before they finally got to marry.
Do you know the kind of thing both team went through?
In the case of the lady, she has been bamboozled with words/advise from family, saying; what ever you get in this mistake you're doing don't call me, you have defiled our family name, he's no match for you, he's a womanizer, his family is cursed, he's evil, he doesn't love you.
Those TEARS ARE NOT A CRY BUT A SIGN OF VICTORY.
Family has a bad/funny way of dealing with our suitors in MARRIAGE.
That engagement ring you are laughing your friend about that HE/SHE has worn for years might be the only thing keeping them GOING.
IT MIGHT BE THE CLOSEST THEY MIGHT BE TO THE PERSON THEY LOVE.
You too will soon get to that level, I'm not saying I wish you same,
But don't laugh at what you don't UNDERSTAND.
Did you have an ugly experience? Please share in the comment box
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Psychologist, Teacher, Adviser, Therapist.
KAY OBUM
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